Dating a congolese man
FOREIGN ATTRACTION: Wearing traditional African garments representing the countries of their spouses, from left, Babalwa Perry, Hlumisa Mnkani, Aaliyah Yandiswa Dlakavu, Zingisa Sigidi and Zukiswa Magqaza-Nazarus Picture: ALAN EASON The African Wives Association (AWA) in East London, a local support group that comprises more than 30 Xhosa women who are either married or engaged to foreign nationals, said they felt alienated by the government and abused by police, and worst of all, relatives called their men names.
But the women, who arrived in beautiful West African outfits at the Dispatch, declared they had fallen in love with their men and would stand side by side with them.
Within the last eighteen months I have attended nine welcoming parties.
These are parties by friends and acquaintances who went to Africa, marry and successfully petitioned for their wives to come to the United States.
With no time to smell the roses or to wonder at the beauties that surround them, they become strangers in the world they live in.
Why do we wine and dine and romance our women if we have no intention of marrying them?
Why do we whine and complain when we see them lay their eggs in the nest of other races?
Why do we sneer at them when they turn the “ideal age for marriage” and are unmarried?
Perry, 31, is married to Liberian national and tyre businessman Ernest Perry, with whom she has two children.
Be it in Houston, Seattle, Dallas, Miami, New York and everywhere in between, African nurses abound.
They are everywhere working mostly the night and graveyard shifts, toiling day and night and away from their husbands and children just to make ends meet.
And then there those who will tell you African girls in the US have all “gone bad…rotten…too exposed…too independent.” Ha, whatever that means! As for the men, well, some will plead with, cajole or trick their wives into going into the nursing or CNA profession assuming the women were not already one back home.
The nursing profession, they believe, is a sure avenue for making money and living the good life.
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And why do we slap the culture book at them when they have children out of wedlock?